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YOU ARE GOOD ENOUG
You know how I mentioned that I felt like I needed to improve myself before I could love myself? The funny thing is that I’m not actually that different now to when I hated myself, even though I now love myself.
The change was all in how I thought about myself.
Start to focus on your good points instead of your bad, your strengths instead of your weaknesses, and you will start to see that you have plenty of good qualities after all (even if it doesn’t feel like it now!).
You are good enough to love yourself now – everybody has both good and bad points and loving yourself will only increase your strengths.
Ready to see your own good points and strengths? Then you’ll love my Self-Love Journal with 31 journal prompts to help you to realise just how amazing you really are! Click here to get your copy and get started!
SELF-LOVE MAKES YOU A BETTER PERSON
When you love yourself, you start acting like your own best friend and cheerleader because you want to see yourself succeed.
You are more likely to have:
- More trust in yourself
- Greater confidence
- More energy
- Able to give more love to others
- More happiness
Instead of fighting yourself every step of the way in life, it will be like you now have an amazing friend encouraging you along the way. One who sees your value and wants you to reach your full potential in life. So if you ever catch yourself doubting whether you deserve to love yourself or not, remember these points:
- You are good enough
- Self-love doesn’t mean you’re egotistical
- Your differences are what make you special
- You don’t need to have it together all of the time
- Self-love makes you a better person
As I found out the hard way, not liking yourself only causes pain and hurting to both you and those around you. We are actually doing everybody a disservice when we hate ourselves because we can all be so much more when we love ourselves.
The following are examples of what self-love can look like in action.
- Saying positive things to yourself
- Forgiving yourself when you mess up
- Meeting your own needs
- Being assertive
- Not letting others take advantage of or abuse you
- Prioritizing your health and wellbeing
- Spending time around people who support you and build you up (and avoiding people who dont)
- Asking for help
- Letting go of grudges or anger that holds you back
- Recognizing your strengths
- Valuing your feelings
- Making healthy choices most of the time
- Living in accordance with your values
- Pursuing your interests and goals
- Challenging yourself
- Holding yourself accountable
- Giving yourself healthy treats
- Accepting your imperfections
- Setting realistic expectations
- Noticing your progress and effort
If you grew up without any models for self-love or anyone who talked to you about the importance of being good to yourself, you might question its value.
Well, without self-love, your likely to be highly self-critical and fall into people-pleasing and perfectionism. Your more likely to tolerate abuse or mistreatment from others. You may neglect your own needs and feelings because you dont value yourself. And you may self-sabotage or make decisions that arent in your own best interest.
Self-love is the foundation that allows us to be assertive, set boundaries and create healthy relationships with others, practice self-care, pursue our interests and goals, and feel proud of who we are.
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